Is it indeed? Have you ever wondered if life is too short? Perhaps how fast time flies by? Like…, things “speeding” up? Not enough hours in the day maybe? Well here are 10 things I would like to share under the Life is too short concept.
1. Life is too short. Forgive!
Don’t forget, but forgive. It will set you free. Couldn’t understand that more deeply than in 2015. People (who usually will give you reasons to/not to forgive) will act like that all the time. You cannot control it. You can control if this will affect you. See what it affects inside you, laugh at it and forgive. You don’t actually forgive the person. You forgive its lack of knowledge and what a person thinks of him/herself.
Positive outcome 1: Three words: Peace. Of. Mind! Plus, you earn back time for your self and your dreams. As long as you discussing behaviors of others inside your head, you know what it happens: You Lose! People will always “surprise” you. Many times in an ugly way.
Positive outcome 2: Forgive yourself!!! Do not place the huge amount of that guilt weight upon your mind and your heart! You did as much as you could cope with or understand. That was great! Give yourself a f..king applause! Then, sit with a piece of paper and note down what you would like to change from all the things that didn’t work and what you would like to achieve.
What. Ever. You. Want… It is your freaking life. Do not allow others to dictate it. You cannot stop them from trying, but you can definitely filter them out.
Forgiving yourself will raise a shield against any malicious “wants” of others. I cannot stretch that more.
If you don’t forgive yourself, your life will get shorter. Change it. It is in your head! If you learn how not to do the same mistakes again you will eventually have less things to forgive.
But, please, enough with the guilt when you suffer for things you couldn’t understand how else to do them.
2. Most of your fears will remain just thoughts. But Act! Life is too short!
That has become more than true this year. My mind had to confront tenths of issues this year. All were tangible. All needed action! Another 30-40.000 of things were thoughts and fears that never happened.
They. Never. Happened! Time wasted in worries and thoughts? A lot.
A recipe to deal with such? Locate your fear/thought. Break it down into its parts. Like going a food recipe backwards. See the fear as 1 object, then see the elements that consist that object. Then look closely at each of the individual objects. See what kind of “fire” was needed to merge and cook those elements into that 1 fearful thought. Just “look” at them in your mind as individual objects.
Well…? Is it real as one big concrete thing or maybe it is not? Is it still there? Repeat. Learn.
However, on the face of a fearful thought you must act. In a tangible situation whether it has to do with your present or your dreams you must act.
Just act. Think of this: No matter how much planning you do, things will evolve only if you act. Without action, there is no motion in situations or in thoughts. Thoughts without action, keep you in the same place.
Yes, Paolo Coehlo said “if you wish it too much, etc, the universe, etc” and he was partially right. Yet, you and you alone, have to make the step and do the f.king trip. He did it in the book he mentioned about the wishes thing! Same with the other thing with “The Secret”. You have to act.
Just act! Set things in motion. Just plan up to the level of your understanding, then act.
3. Which brings us to “Faith”!
Put your heart in and believe. Life is too short, not to believe. Either way you have no clue, right?
I have no freaking idea what this means. However I do know that somehow it works. Perhaps it is the mind that disrupts the dual messy thinking and you see clearly. Perhaps “Paolo” is on something, perhaps… who has any idea about what Faith is?
The feeling you get in your heart plays a huge role. If you don’t feel it, if emotion is not entangled into what you want, it will take lots of time to succeed. Put emotion into the mixture. Put your heart in it like your life depends on it.
Just set it in your mind and believe it. And act. If you knew some other way to do it right you would have done it already! Right?
4. People will dissapoint you
Bad news for your compadre! That is not right at all (however you can always refer to point 5). You have your “wants” and your “dislikes”. Each person has its own agenda. It doesn’t mean that yours and theirs will be “forever and ever and happily ever after”.
People (you too) will act according to their likes and dislikes. That is, according to their understanding of their role in life and in a community.
People will try to “earn” or earn, something from you. Many times when they think they help you. Other times when they “don’t ask” for something but they will ask for: recognition, money, approval or even disapproval.
When you realize that, reflect on point 1 and do not worry. Do not be hostile either. When you realize that this is how people are, you will manage to keep a distance by being whole at the same time, instead of becoming an a-hole.
5. Finding the right companion in life, is gold
Beware, here is the secret: 1 and 1 makes 3 (duh!).
Not many can ponder on this. Give it a minute. It is everywhere. Two things when they merge or get really connected produce a 3rd thing. Any number of things when they get together they create an additional entity. A sum of things is not the sum of things but they produce an additional result.
Two people when they align and target to something (whatever that is), they create a new entity. Thus, 1 and 1 equals 3. It is very important. For good or bad.
6. Seize the day, Carpe diem, and yada, yada, yada…
Just doing that without a single thought or consideration will get you into trouble. Many times. Plan, see what you need to take care or secure and act.
For example there are many articles about traveling that say things like “Go get it, drop everything (job, etc) and just travel”. That is cool if you have a “backup plan” and someone to feed you with money. Most of such are written by people who have someone feed them with money. Usually their family.
So, “just travel”, on the expense of others teaches you nothing. Most of the times it enhances your lack of responsibility. Of course until the point where “life” itself drops in and teaches you a lesson or two (if you are lucky).
This is valid for all kinds of things. Many people love to live on the expense of others and most of the times their level of “gratitude” for having this luck is zero.
7. Be a sincere service to others
Unless you are like… 10 years old you may have already found that in life you do something for someone else and in return you get something for you… Be sincere and polite and this will get you anywhere 95% of the times. Be useful but do not be submissive. Love to help others. Do one good thing everyday from which you have nothing to gain and forget that you did it.
Yet…, be sincere but don’t be a fool. When your gut tells you that someone wants to cultivate your ego to just get something from you on your expense, just say no unless you are fine to be like that. Say no and forget.
Yet, do not forget what else was mentioned here. People have their own agenda. They do not necessarily think or know, what something “costs” to you. They will ask. You can do the same too. It is not wrong to ask. Not asking gets you nothing.
Acknowledge this to deal with situations, and use your intuition to understand what you are willing to do. Always do what you are only willing to do.
If something doesn’t work out for you then just refer to point 1, move on and forget.
8. Get organized. Life is too short not to be.
This is one thing I still deal with. I tend to give great importance into “creative things” than to “mundane things”. Guess what. The mundane ones are the ones that will turn around and bite my tussy… If you don’t want to deal with what you call mundane, either delegate it (if you have the resources) or deal with it.
After all, whatever is pending is stealing time and energy, through the thoughts in your head as it keeps coming back again and again, until it is put in its proper place.
If you are afraid of it, turn around and confront it. Many call that procrastination, but many times it is an issue carried on the chariot of fear. To deal with it, see point 2.
9. Exercise! Life can get longer if you do
Exercise your mind (you know a video game can additionally do that when applied in a reasonable way), and exercise your body. Find a way that you like and sets you out of your comfortable zone too.
For example, I like hiking, swimming and lots of activities in nature (as you can see in this blog) but lately I started doing Ashtanga Yoga. Oh, the plenitude of things I found out about my body and my mind by doing that. Things that I didn’t notice in a gym by lifting weights.
Yoga may seem as something “static” but it is not. I was happy to find out much more benefits. For example it seems to positively influence the way I am hiking. My body is more flexible and I feel much better. I have forgotten that kind of feeling and flexibility since the days I was practicing Aikido.
So for me -and now- Yoga is added to the things I need to keep my body and mind strong and flexible. You can choose whatever you like, but exercise.
Many times what is “more” on your body, relates to something that you need to understand and get over.
Our way of life is heavily bombarded by “conveniences” who seem to ease our way of living but -trust me- we are not meant to take the shape of a chair and our eyes are not meant to be like a square screen.
We need to move. Hopefully I hope all people will find, or aim to find, the time to move more and their activities align with things to do in nature. Not just as a hobby but to really find occupations that relate to nature.
We are not meant to get fat inside cement blocks. Especially in Greece where nature is screaming all around to visit her.
10. Each person is an important part of the whole and isolation is not healthy
While I respect the need of a person to isolate its existence from society, I -so far- believe that this is an issue a person needs to observe and cure. I do not think it is healthy.
Someone has all the time to perfectly isolate when they relocate to the six-feet-under country.
I observed many examples from people to have claimed that they cannot stand society or that they cannot stand “how people are” but when I look closer, I see that these very same persons actually make a living due to other people who remain in “that” society. Meaning that without the existence or contribution of other people they would not be able to survive.
As persons we really need to understand how each action of ours influence the sum, and at the same time how our actions affect us directly. I find that isolation is good for meditation, but that’s that only.
Yes, everyday it is proven to me that we are all connected (buzz word, right?) and at any point or level we can see that, we can make steps towards a more meaningful (usually it means: without conflicts) way of living.
Conclusion on things that relate to the concept of: Life is too short
Well, each one may draw their own conclusions or food for thought. I just wanted to share my thoughts.
However if I had to choose one thing that is very important to me, that would be to forgive yourself.
Who knows, you may end up loving more people that way.
Have a great 2016!
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